A mother’s love is unconditional towards her children. She will love her kids the same regardless of the way they look, dress, act, or betray her. There is no love that compares to a mother’s supreme love – and supreme love is what is expected from the mate you choose for life.
If you feel like you must change yourself to be loved by someone, then you are not experiencing true unconditional love. If you have bad habits that may repel the majority, then this is different. However, if you must change your weight, style, preferences, career, car, personality, hobbies and friends to please someone – then the person you are with was not MEANT for YOU.
If someone complains about your weight for health reasons, this is good. But if someone wants you to lose weight for their friends or because they now find you undesirable, move on.
When a person truly loves you for YOU, they eventually become blind to all your flaws. In the beginning of relationships, never misrepresent yourself. Instead, show the object of your affection who you truly are. Those that mask themselves will only be disappointed in the end. Those that cheat to earn love, will not get true love. Love does not like to be cheated. And the mirage you present as yourself, will also turn the whole relationship into a mirage.
It is very important to love yourself before expecting others to love you. Insecure people rarely find true love in relationships. Confidence is one of the most beautiful traits to the opposite sex. A person who is truly confident — regardless of their looks — will attract more people to them than a beautiful person with no confidence.
Only when you find yourself in love with the HEART of another person, have you found the one you unconditionally love. — Suzy Kassem